What makes you feel loved?

How to answerThink about a close relationship (a partner, or someone very close to you). How much does each statement sound like you?

1. 1When they remember something I mentioned in passing, it warms me right up.

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2. 2When I make a slightly risky choice and they say "go for it," it really moves me.

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3. 3When they keep their word, even on small things, I feel safe.

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4. 4When they don't need to know what I'm doing every moment, I feel trusted.

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5. 5It makes me happy when they plan a weekend or a trip with me naturally counted in.

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6. 6It means a lot when they can tell I'm off before I say anything.

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7. 7Them taking my side in front of other people matters more to me than almost anything.

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8. 8When something goes wrong, I know they're the first person I can turn to.

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9. 9I'm grateful when I want time alone and they don't take it as rejection.

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10. 10When they introduce me to their friends and family, I feel taken seriously.

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11. 11I care less about compliments than about them really getting what matters to me.

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12. 12When I'm unsure of myself, their belief that I can do it makes me feel loved.

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13. 13Their being steady and predictable, in mood and in how they treat me, feels like love.

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14. 14It matters that they respect my friends, interests and choices without trying to run them.

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15. 15When they share small everyday things with me, like a cat they saw on the way home, I feel close to them.

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